Break Up Recovery - How to Get her Out of Your Head After You Got Ditched

This is quite a tough process, if your love is deep-rooted and strong. On the other hand it might be a cakewalk if your love means nothing but a time-pass for you. If your case is the former one, these are some really useful tips that can help you a great deal to recover:

Stop all forms of communication after the break up:

If your lover was true and sincere, this step should be taken after your attempts to put things back again. After correcting your mistakes or asking your partner to correct his/hers, give your partner a time span. I recommend you not to make it too long. The longer you hope and expect, the higher your sufferings will be. Once all the attempts that you can feasibly do has been done, simply stop - No phone calls, no emails, no birthday cards, nothing.

Never try to chase her/him. Never force people back into your life. You wouldnt want them to point their fingers at you and ask why did you force me back into this hell? some time in the future. Would you? Let them go if they want to. As I already said, weaker pillars might fall apart. They are in plenty in this world. You are not at all the loser. Stronger pillars may be rare. But they are definitely on the way to you. Open up your heart for them.

Stop waiting infinitely:

You can give the person some time to come back. But this should never happen to ruin your life or your mental and physical well being. Infinite waiting will! Every moment you expect the person back, he/she might be out there enjoying their lives with someone new. They may be busy planning for their great accomplishments in life. Your ex might have already got over with you and moved forward in their life, seeking new joys and horizons. Set a time limit and let go.

Experienced hands say that lost loves and buses are alike. If you missed one, another is definitely on the way. Never desperately run after the one you just missed, however valuable it seems. If they simply walked away erasing all the memories they had about you, it means they can do it at any point in their lives. You might have been a small piece in their whole jigsaw puzzle like life. You want to spend a life time with such a kind of person? You want your life to be a puzzle? If he/she could forget you, it is mandatory that you should do the same

Keep his/her belongings away:

There may be tons of gifts and letters that he/she might have given you. If you are highly inclined to keep looking back at them now, you are not likely going to forget any memories. If that is the case, simply put them on fire. But if you are quite strong, I would advice you to keep all those belongings with you. But never go back to them until some time pass by. After a while, have a look at those rubbles of your temple of love. All these thoughts that hurt you now are going to be strange but sweet memories when you move forward in your life.

Several times have I read through my whole collection of love SMS's my ex wrote for me and smiled thinking how stupid I was once for having believed all those intoxicating sentences. I assure you - it doesnt hurt. It simply gives a different sort of feeling. May be a feeling of pride for having learned so much and come so far.

Avoid all chances of meeting your ex:

Avoid places you two used to frequent and restaurants where you used to hang out. Avoid any occasion in which there is a chance for you to bump into your ex. Keeping away from seeing can help a lot in getting the memories out of your head.

Stop reading between the lines:

The moment your ex leaves you, your mind starts framing a thousand probabilities and possibilities, which would mostly be nothing but your own illusions. Dont let your mind find false-hope in something your ex does. If your ex has sadistic attitudes he/she might even try to hurt you by attracting and provoking you after the break up. Please dont interpret these as her willingness to return or as reasons for some hope.

I am loving my lonliness.....

This Song is dedicated for the one, whose life became, so called "Hell" bcoz of me!!!!!

Kisi Pathar ki murat say.....

Smile -- toss the feathers

mysql optimization

-:MYSQL OPTIMIZATION:-

First Way:-

1) query_cache_type: Specifies the operating mode of the query cache.
Three possible values can be assigned to this variable: 0, 1, and 2.


Finding info about Query_cache_type

show variables like “query_cache_type”;

Setting Size of Query_cache_type

set GLOBAL query_cache_type=0;// off
set GLOBAL query_cache_type=1;// on
set GLOBAL query_cache_type=2;// no Sql cache

2) query_cache_limit: Specifies the maximum size that a result set can be in order to be cached. For example, if the limit is set to 2M, no result set larger than 2MB will be cached. The default limit is 1MB.

Finding info about Query_cache_limit

show variables like “query_cache_limit”;

Setting Size of Query_cache_limit

set GLOBAL query_cache_limit=1000000;// 10MB set


3) query_cache_size: Specifies the amount of memory allocated for caching queries. By default, this variable is set to 0, which means that query caching is turned off. To implement query caching, you should specify a query_cache_size setting in the [mysqld] section of your option file. For example, the setting query_cache_size=10M enables query caching and allocates 10M of memory to the cache.

Finding info about Query_cache_size

show variables like “query_cache_size”;

Setting Size of Query_cache_size

set GLOBAL query_cache_size=1000000;// 10MB set





Second Way:-

1) use a text editor such as Vim or Notepad to modify your option file to include a setting for the query_cache_size system variable. For Linux users, add a query_cache_size entry to the [mysqld] section of the my.cnf file in the root directory.

query_cache_size=10M

2) For the changes in the option file to take effect, you must shut down the MySQL server. In Linux, execute the following command at your operating system’s command prompt:

mysqladmin -u root -p shutdown

When prompted for a password, enter your password and press Enter. The service is stopped.

3) Now you must restart the MySQL server. In Linux, execute the following command at your operating system’s command prompt:

mysqld_safe --user=mysql &

4). Open the mysql client utility.

5). Now view the settings for the query_cache_size system variable again and you are ready to go with new settings.


How It Works

All the steps that you took in this exercise should be familiar to you from previous chapters. To begin, you used the SHOW VARIABLES statement to view the default settings for each system variable related to the query cache. For example, the following SHOW VARIABLES statement retrieved the current setting for the query_cache_limit system variable:

SHOW VARIABLES LIKE ‘query_cache_type’;

The results indicated that the query cache is on. When you viewed the setting for the query_cache_limit variable, you saw that each results set can be 1048576, or 1M. Next you viewed the query_cache_size variable, which was set to 0. This meant that no SELECT statement result sets were being cached.

Once you verified the settings for all three system variables, you added or updated the following setting in the [mysqld] section of your option file:

query_cache_size=10M

This entry sets the query cache size to 10M. You implemented the new setting by stopping the server and then restarting it. From there, you opened the MySQL client utility and used the SHOW VARIABLES statement once more to verify the query_cache_size system setting. The results indicated that the new setting had been implemented. Now your SELECT statements will be cached, which should improve the performance of your SELECT statements. You could have also specified different settings
for the query_cache_type and query_cache_limit system variables in your option file, but it wasn’t necessary. Because you didn’t, the default values for both variables are used.

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